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 The Unintended Consequences of Power: A Story of Empathy and Hierarchy

Ever realized that being a human, your humanity or to be very precise your emotions affect you to a point where you feel so deeply connected even to persons & people you neither ever met nor you know who are they ??  Ever thought why does this happen to us ?

This is because we get connected to the emotions even of strangers by keeping ourselves in the shoes of them. And sometimes that effects us also more or less may be in the right or wrong way, we don't even get to know of it.

Also have you heard those lines that says
Khushiyan logon ko baant ti hain,
Par dukh aur taklifen logon ko karib lata hai ...
This is because we feel for others pain, that's one of the most important characteristics we have as humans and we indulge ourselves in other's sufferings.

How this all started ..
Yesterday I was in the office, was a hectic day as most of the days in a corporate employee's life but towards the end of the day just before logging out, our team was called for a team meeting by the manager, where as we went in as always we discussed about the whole day's work, targets, achievements so far & the statistics of the work done till now.
But apart from all this usual stuff, he mentioned one peculair thing that the salaries for last month for a particular department in the organization has been hold by the new director for the segment who has joined the system recently, because the targets were not met from their side.
Why do these top management always have this assumption that people working under them wants to get free of cost salaries without doing anything ??
Why will someone do something like this ???
       
            "People don’t leave bad jobs, they leave bad bosses."

Why don't these guys don't understand that working like this not just makes the work environment toxic but also effects the employee turnover for their own establishment as well & on top of everything when you have joined a new organization that to on such a top level management role it's important for both them & the people working under them to first each other's way of work which will for sure take some time.
But no in today's fast growing world, everyone requires everything in just the gap of seconds with just negligible level of patience. And when you have climbed the stairs up to such a prominent level, these things matter a lot like being humble, understanding your people & routing out for them.
Hence it has been rightly said that

                             There is a difference between a being a Manager & being a Leader
        "Leadership is not about being in charge. It's about taking care of those in your charge."
                                                                                                                       
                                                                                                                                     - Simon Sinek

Why don't they understand that even when they can't do anything for the past performances of the employee's and now doing all this they are hampering their present work efficiency as well, as these employee's will not even have the motivation to work, hence again the same thing will be there that there is no productive outcomes.
When people will not have their heart to work, how are we even expecting any positive results  ??
Why don't these guys understand that doing all of it you are creating chaos in their personal lives effecting their mental health to a level that your staff is able to focus on his work at all as they will always be distracted about their month commitments & expenses.
And how can we expect people in these situations to do better in their work environment  ??


Since the time I heard about this, it started effecting like a slow poison to me, I was already having a minor headache since the evening, after all this I started worsening, I thought may be due not having something properly this is happening. So after logging out from work first thing I did was had something good for curing my headache & also to lift up my mood as good food make things better & lightens up the mood. And usually it gets cured if its because of my hunger, but this time it was not cured rather it went deteriorating. Hence I perceived it as the reason as my mind not being stable and not due to my hunger. Still I was not able to receive that it may this news which affected me.
Hence after reaching home, as my headache was getting worse till a point where it was out of control, I just lied on my bed without even freshening up or having dinner, didn't only felt like doing anything. With a lot of hardships went to sleep after much struggle with the pain. When got up after almost 2 hours of sleep, realized what actually happened with me.

This what empathy does, those people will never know, that there was someone from another department & another team who felt so much for them that it effected physically to her ... This is humanity which is above all the boundaries of countries, religion, caste, sex, economical differences and personal backgrounds. I know this went to be quite lengthy this time but I felt like it should be taken up as a topic
as was one of those very intricate and pure words just from the heart, I shared this one because this
I shared this one because this
I shared this one because this page was created with the motive of opening up with one's own self in the most desirable & undesirable days of life & establishing peace with own self & those experiences. Still feel comfortable with it if and not judged. As in today's internet world, we have come to a place where everyone's sentiments get hurt so easily & it just takes a click or comment to disturb someone's mental peace. So we are trying to build a community where we respect the emotions of everyone & try to understand and support each other through our struggles.

Hence we quote & hope you carry it forward,

In a room full of BAHAUT HARDS, we would rather be BAHAUT SOFT.

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